Comments on CATHARSIS: What Comes Next

Thanks for the props on the Sunshine award! How s...

2011-11-23T08:22:17.714-06:00

Thanks for the props on the Sunshine award! How sweet!!! I've been so bad about return the award favors lately...we moved and we are almost all unpacked.
Thanks again and Happy T-giving!

Happy Belated b-day. Just wanted you to know I st...

2011-11-16T07:38:25.791-06:00

Happy Belated b-day. Just wanted you to know I still cannot leave comments on your newer posts. (how's that for a b-day present)?
Hope you had a great day!!!

I think the now what depends on the circumstances....

2011-11-14T14:05:40.157-06:00

I think the now what depends on the circumstances. I have been to two weddings in the past couple of months.
Here in Ireland, many couples are marrying after several years of living together, they tend to be mid thirties, in some cases they already have a child or two. After the hoopla of the wedding life returns to the normal everyday routine. The main difference is the public affirmation of their commitment to each other.

The second wedding I went to was in Turkey. The couple are young, have grown up in a very supervised atmosphere and the "what now?" is very different for them. Everything has changed.

Thanks TV (maybe cos I switched to another comment...

2011-11-12T08:32:36.609-06:00

Thanks TV (maybe cos I switched to another comments system again?...not sure).

Mike B: Thanks too! 28 years....well, obviously even without dealing with the 'now what', you're doing well! :-)

Great post. I have been married for over 28 years...

2011-11-11T19:22:52.671-06:00

Great post. I have been married for over 28 years but I never really gave any thought to your "Now what?" question. Things have worked out OK, but it would have been interesting to sit down with my wife during our first year as a married couple and try to flesh out where we were going, our plans, and so on.

LOVE the above post, but didn't see the commen...

2011-11-11T08:50:43.627-06:00

LOVE the above post, but didn't see the comments. HILARIOUS and quite true.

Sweepy/Adriene: That's funny! I hope your hu...

2011-11-11T05:15:36.626-06:00

Sweepy/Adriene: That's funny! I hope your hubby wasn't too freaked out at the time, lol! Thanks for stopping by :-)))

BooksbyThomasina: GREAT advice!! Flexibility is ...

2011-11-11T05:14:46.465-06:00

BooksbyThomasina: GREAT advice!! Flexibility is essential! :-))

Cath, you reminded me of the first time I realized...

2011-11-11T05:14:03.117-06:00

Cath, you reminded me of the first time I realized I was engaged. I woke up, saw the ceiling and thought in semi-panic: "wow...I have a boyfriend and am engaged! How strange is this?" There's just something unforgettable about that moment when it hits you that you now have to reconstruct your life somehow...hmmm......Thanks for making me remember!

The Pepperific Life: I totally agree with you...t...

2011-11-11T05:11:41.631-06:00

The Pepperific Life: I totally agree with you...that we can't go through life aimlessly and need to take pauses. Thanks for your thoughts! :-)

Sam B: Oh yes, the Filipino wedding!...good luck ...

2011-11-11T05:10:38.377-06:00

Sam B: Oh yes, the Filipino wedding!...good luck making it small and intimate! But like you, I would've preferred mine to have been kept small but...oh well, that's done now, haha!

Shortly after I got married, I decided one day to ...

2011-11-06T10:16:51.373-06:00

Shortly after I got married, I decided one day to go to the mall with my sister. It ended up being an all-day event. When I got home that evening, my husband was somewhat frantic. In these days before the cell phone, I had not told him where I was going and he had no clue. That was my first realization that I was now accountable to my HUSBAND. It seems obvious but it was a whole new dynamic for me at the time.

I had an easy wedding...borrowed my mom's dres...

2011-11-05T20:22:06.017-05:00

I had an easy wedding...borrowed my mom's dress, went to Reno, got married, spent the night and back to our apartment the next day. The "now what" hit me when I woke up the first morning in the apartment. I'd always shared a room with my sister. All of a sudden home was a walk-up apartment, and I was sleeping with a stranger. It took a few days to get used to that! But it's been a good 41 years. :D Because we have always been committed to each other, even when we were angry with each other. Thanks for such a good post!

I really like the "now comes forever". Y...

2011-11-05T18:57:56.510-05:00

I really like the "now comes forever". Your advice was great! The adventures of marriage are many! I guess some settle into an everyday routine but after the kids that is blown out the water. LOL One of my greatest advice for newly married couples are remain flexible so life cant break you. Congrats to the newly weds.

So glad you had such a wonderful time Joy (and LOV...

2011-11-05T15:34:14.753-05:00

So glad you had such a wonderful time Joy (and LOVED your dress!). I remember this feeling of "oh my God! What do I have to do today!!!" the morning after my wedding. I was rushing and running around so much for so many weeks that it didn't sink in that I could relax now. I think that's true of all really big events that take a lot of planning. Your mind needs to catch up with the rest of you ha. It's an exciting time, even if it is an adjustment period.

Glad you had a great time. My 'adjustment'...

2011-11-05T15:17:31.873-05:00

Glad you had a great time. My 'adjustment' period came the year we were engaged. That was rough but we made it through it. Few couples can say marriage is easy. If newly weds just keep remembering to work at it then they will be more successful. (i hope)

I should've thought of that when I got married...

2011-11-05T04:47:37.520-05:00

I should've thought of that when I got married! :) As with anything, we do have to keep asking ourselves, "No what?" We can't aimlessly go through life... Thanks for this post :)

Wow! I hadn't thought about this, Joy! But I c...

2011-11-04T20:28:40.417-05:00

Wow! I hadn't thought about this, Joy! But I can see what you mean! After all the festivities that often take months of preparation, it always feels like there should be a "Now what?" moment. Maybe this is partly why I'm hesitant about big weddings, which seem so hard to avoid in Filipino families. =P

Thanks for this post Joy! I am the sort of person ...

2011-11-04T13:07:33.865-05:00

Thanks for this post Joy! I am the sort of person who doesn't think much. Unfortunately, i find my "now what" as I go along...

Another beautiful blog entry!

2011-11-03T17:59:30.906-05:00

Another beautiful blog entry!