Friday, August 9, 2013

Metamorphoses

This past week has been very busy but extremely fun and refreshing for me at the same time.  A very good and old friend of mine, with her family, visited us from Canada.  This is a friend I met in college so we're talking of 20+ years of friendship here.  And since Bff also lives in the area, it was like a mini reunion for the three of us (sans 4 other members of our group who are based in the Philippines).

As expected there was a lot of joking, reminiscing, venting and overall therapy that went on.  I guess when you're with old friends, people you have a long history with, you can't help but discuss the past.  People you all knew, crushes and loves long past, teachers you hated and adored, classmates and 'friends' who made you prefer a root canal over the thought of spending a minute of alone time with them...all these things kind of force you to assess how your life is right now.  Have we changed much?  How far have we gone? Do we like the changes we see?  Who are we now?  Is this the life we've always envisioned for ourselves?  Do we have any regrets?  Where do you think are we headed?

There's much to think about and answer, and though I haven't processed everything that well YET, I couldn't help but be reminded of the movie Flight of the Butterflies.  Our family saw this on IMAX this past June and what truly stuck with me is the butterfly's process of metamorphosis.  

The movie was about the Monarch butterflies and it was so interesting how the process of transformation from caterpillar to butterfly is quite 'violent', for lack of a better term.  When the caterpillar retreats into the chrysalis, the same enzymes it uses to digest its food now 'digests' its own body.  Most of the caterpillar's tissues get broken down, while some get transformed to parts it would need as a butterfly.  

Photo Credit: http://www.sxc.hu/photo/483163

This is a creature that needs to die in order to live again, and live fully, to reach its full potential.  I find it interesting that it's almost like having two lives, isn't it?  It's as if the caterpillar retreats back into the womb, transforms, and is born a second time as something almost completely different.

Sometimes I think of my life like that.  Or I would like to think of my life like that.  There are a lot of things we can't control in this life and it's just how things need to flow, need to be.  We have our own paths and most often than not, we need to die somehow, whether it's a part of us or just something we possess that we need to give up, in order for the next step, next event, to unfold.  A self-reinvention is always necessary.  Changes happen and such metamorphoses are not always painless and smooth.  We shed things.  We leave things and people behind.  At times we need to wait until the time is right and we are ready for the next stage, the next change, the next new life. And really all we can hope and strive for is that, after each process of death and transformation, that we end up truly exhibiting our highest state, where we are most magnificent, ready to fly and be the being that we have always been meant to be....where ever we are, regardless of what we do.

How many deaths and rebirths can you count in your present life?














11 comments:

  1. Another beautifully written blog, Joy! Love it! :)

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  2. Quite a few Joy. I think I'm going through another one right now...

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  3. Reflective, deep thinking. First, it made me think about a reunion with High School friends after 52 years. Then about the Monarch butterflies and how once in Mexico we were surrounded by them. Next, the transformation from chrysalis to butterfly. Then about life's flow and reinvention and in answer to your question, I can count five rebirths - so far.

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    1. It must have been so surreal being surrounded by such beauty, Pennie! Lucky you! As for deaths/rebirths, I think I can count five as well. Thanks for stopping by!

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  4. Wonderful analogy, Joy. There have been so many pivotal moments in my life, if I can consider the choices I've made as rebirths, I've lost count. Each chance we take is like dying a little, and reconciling the past before moving on is crucial. As always, I love your posts.

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    1. What you said about reconciling the past before moving on is indeed key! And it's also the one that requires a LOT of hardwork. Thank you so much, Adriene :-)

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  5. What a perfect analogy! Well, let's just say that I have had to reinvent myself many times. We have to make choices and life happens. The amount of things/projects I had to leave behind is amazing. But hey, onwards & upwards!

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  6. geez by the amount of relocation I've had alone seem to be a death and rebirth every time. truly understanding where we want to be, that's the hard part. there are points in my life that I know i want to achieve, but it's all separate. career, love life, family, and friends. I believe that when we truly have the balance of all of these it's the final rebirth. often times it makes it hard to have everything come together. so we sacrifice, we adapt, we settle. what are the things most important to me right now and what things can I live without. that's why I believe we always play the what if game, because the minute we feel some kind of strain, we doubt the decision we made. doubt is where we can turn ugly real quick. it's the doubt that makes you think the decision you made was wrong because you started to create a fantasy from the what if's. you start to think that the what if was actually achievable. then you start to regret the true decision. the real decision. which then causes a strain to the real relationship. fantasy will always beat reality and that's where we have to be careful not to compare the two. that's why you should always be confident in the decision made. sometimes it is wrong, but base it on merit and not fantasy. what if's are great, but just know that it's not real.

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    1. Valid points, especially about the what ifs. Hmmm.....and you know I'm a sucker for those, haha!

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