Friday, August 12, 2011

From Windy to Opry

We are inching closer to the big day, our big move to the South.  I have approximately one more week in this house before I, with the little one, stay with my BFF and her family, for a few days before we close on the new house.  They live 10 minutes away from the home we are building.  My husband will have additional days in this house to do the final packing and loading before he joins us in TN. 

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It will be a big change for all three of us.  Just when I had begun feeling comfortable and confident here in Chicago, another move has to happen.  This means, I will take more time, yet again, to feel comfortable driving and going to places on my own.  The roads and routes will be new to me and I’m sort of going back to square one for the second time around.  Granted that migrating from Manila to Chicago is a bigger deal than moving from Chicago to Nashville, to me, it's still a challenge because it translates to taking me away from the familiar just the same.

This will also be a new experience for my husband since for the first time, he’ll be living away from his family.  I feel sad for him of course, since I’d been there, done that, so I have SOME sympathy for him.  However, I would have to admit that part of me feels this will also be a good learning experience for us...I hope.  I think it would be good that we'd be on our own and maybe he’ll understand me more now that he’s also away from family and everything familiar (although I will bet that he won’t have as much difficulty as I did when I first went through it given our personality differences…him being so friendly, outgoing and adaptable vs. me, the introverted, timid, overly cautious, overanalyzer).  For the first time, we'd be able to experience celebrating (some) holidays by ourselves.  I wonder how it would be like, what we'd do to make it fun and no less meaningful, what family traditions we could finally nurture...something that's truly our own, just us three.  You could say it sounds sad.  I say it's also exciting.  It's all a matter of lens.

And of course it will be sad that Noah will surely miss his cousins and aunts, uncles and grandparents.  But then again, this is still a good time to move since he’s still very young and adaptable and open to making new friends. Besides, BFF has two sons, the older one being the same age as Noah so that's another positive thing and one less thing to whine about.

Family and friends aside though, admittedly, there are some things I will miss TERRIBLY when we move....

Chicago weather...Yes you read it right.  I will miss the weather here, EVEN the snow.  I have said it multiple times before, I don't like heat and my favorite seasons are autumn and winter.  I don't like road accidents and freezing to the bone, but I would have to admit that I will miss the chills and the layers and layers of clothing.  What can I say?...the cold still has some novelty left for this girl who grew up in the tropics.

Our doctors...our family physician, my OBGYN, and my son's pediatrician.  I adore all three  and will really miss them. There is no doubt that there are excellent doctors in the Nashville area.  However, the thought of starting over, looking for new ones with a good fit, and getting comfortable again is not so easy for me to think about.  

The food landscape of Chicago...I will miss Vietnamese town, specifically Tank Noodle for the best Pho ever!  Of course I'll also miss Chicago's Chinatown given all the interesting restaurants in that area, as well as stores selling Chinese delicacies.  Asian food aside, I'll also miss Hot Doug’s for their superb encased meats and of course their duck-fat fries!!  Come on!  Who won't miss that?  Oddly, though I'll be in TN, land of good barbecue, I am certain I will be missing Smoque, which in my opinion, unequivocally, serves the most flavorful ribs, bbq beans and to-die-for mac'n'cheese!  As for pizzas, yes Chicago style is great but my heart has been totally captured by the Neapolitan pizzas at
Spacca Napoli.  My heart breaks just thinking of how much I will miss their Bufalina, a true testament to the gastronomic joys achieved when simplicity meets excellence!  And speaking of excellence, how can I ever forget the best and most flawless meal of my life at Charlie Trotter's?  I know that's a lot for me to say...'flawless'...but I mean it.  If you take your food seriously and want an intimate, romantic dinner and have some money to burn, you absolutely need to try their genius.

And last, but definitely not the least, I will absolutely miss Andy.  He has treated me well and this is a relationship I find so hard to break because I'm certain it will be difficult to replace him.  No, he's not my lover (that would be Ralph Fiennes).  Andy is my hair stylist. He has been cutting my hair for approximately five years now and he's simply amazing.  He knows what I want and he always delivers.  He's used to Asian hair (he's Chinese), he's friendly, not too chatty, not snooty, very thorough and easily figures out what I want done.  I am praying hard that I find someone like him when I move.  If you think about it, great hair cut = great hair days = better mood = increased levels of HAPPINESS!!  So yes, this is VERY important.

I seriously doubt if I will cry when it's time to say our goodbyes.  I rarely cry, not because I'm tough or never emotionally moved. I just prefer to do it privately.  That being said, I still think I won't cry because I know I'll be back one way or another.  I've done the leaving before, somehow I know what to expect.  After all is said and done, the only thing to remember is this...It's not the distance that matters but what you do to bridge that distance.  You take what you are given and make the most of it.  

22 comments:

  1. Chicago's great....can never find another city so broad and beautiful but good luck with your move. To new beginnings my friend.

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  2. You made me realize I never paused to write what I'd miss most about Manila when I left 26 years ago. And now it's too late, as I am more attached to California, having lived here longer. Funny how you embraced even Chicago's winters, hothouse tropical flower that you originally were. I like the cold better, too, but by "cold" I'm speaking as a Californian! We passed through Chicago one winter and there was a "heat wave" of 26 degrees.

    It will be good, as you said, to be able to build your own holiday traditions and knit together as a family minus extended family (speaking from experience.) And hey, your BFF and young sons will be 10 min. away in TN! Best cushion there is.

    I'll let Ralph Fiennes out more often to console you, but once you're acclimated we're back to 60-40 custody!

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  3. Nashville is nice too. Vanderbilt is a great school. The Parthenon. Yes, the Opry. Vibrant entertainment scene. Even good food and a Hard Rock Cafe, just like Chicago. You'll grow to like it, I'm sure. You'll even be sayin' y'all before too long.

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  4. Well, Joy, I am sure that you will find different things in Nashville! Some better...others a bit worse. That being said, after your move from Manilla it shouldn't be too big a change!

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  5. Good luck with your move Joy. With your positive frame of mind I'm sure you will settle soon. While initially daunting, what an exciting time it will be too, to start your own family traditions etc. I wish you joy and happiness.

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  6. Well, looks like your blog sure has the right name!  You seem to be the kind of person who uses the big changes in your life to really grow.  I appreciate your optimism and sense of adventure -- I'm like that too!  Good luck with the big move!  You'll certainly have LOTS to write about ;-)

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  7. Scrolly Polly....I'm terribly hurt.  I really really thought Ralph has been faithful to me all this time...booohoooo.......(hehehehehehhehe...You've made me smile...thanks!!)

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  8. Lovely tribute to Chicago Joy! Best of luck with your move and look forward to reading about your new adventures in your new city.

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  9. I relate to you SO MUCH on the family thing - I've lived away from my family since I was 17 but my boyfriend, like most Californians, hasn't been farther than a 30-mile radius his entire life.  That kind of stuff freaks NYers out lol.  Even more deeply though, I've always felt a deep inequity of living near his family and not mine.

    There will be so many more people for me to visit in Nashville now!

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  10. I moved 2000 miles many years ago (almost 41 to be exact to the south.  And though I hate the summers hear, moreso the older I get, I love the winters and fall.  And spring.  In fact, summer is the only hellish season here.  I hope you enjoy your life in Nashville.  One of the better places to live here in the south.

    ~cath xo

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  11. You certainly are making a drastic move. I can't think of two more different areas/cities in this country though I constantly hear East vs. West Coast. Interesting how you relate your move from the Philippines to what your husband may feel about leaving his family and known surroundings. A beautiful account of your growing nostalgia for what you are leaving behind in Chicago, but I'm sure there are big surprises in store for you in Nashville. Hope they are all good.

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  12. I hope so too Pennie.  My main concern is that I know it's not as diverse as Chicago.  However, since we'd be quite close to Nashville, I think it'll be comparatively more diverse than areas far from big cities.

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  13. Thanks Cath!!  I hate summers too so I'm bracing myself for that.  I'm sure though there'll be many other things to enjoy  :-))

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  14. What an exciting move, Joy! Even though there's a lot you'll miss, there's also a lot of new discoveries to be had in Nashville I imagine! =) My partner and I are going through something very similar right now. We're leaving this Friday to start apartment hunting on the Peruvian coast and if all goes well, we'll be in an entirely new area by the end of the year and it'll be his first time away from his family and friends as well! Eek! I'll be really interested in hearing about how the three of adjust with your different personalities and all. =)

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  15. Sounds like while you've grown to appreciate IL you'll definitely have new things to appreciate in TN.  Best of luck in your last days there and the move itself.  I cannot wait to see what new doors open for you in TN.  Yeee Haa

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  16. Wishing you all the best on your move!! This is such an exciting time for you all!! I can relate to it taking a while to get comfortable finding my way around a new town. Even though I have only moved around NYC and the suburbs, I get very comfortable in my routines! I think it is great that your BFF is only going to be 10 minutes away, that should be so much fun!! I look foward to reading all about it! Much love and luck!

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  17. Thanks Kathy!  Yes, BFF being so near is a blessing indeed!  I'm sure I'll be writing about my Southern experiences soon :-))

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  18. Hahahha, your 'yeee haaa made me chuckle!  Thanks TV!

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  19. Good luck on your move Sam!  I thin it's so weird that a lot of us in PBAU are in a middle of a move....exciting times I guess!

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  20. And now, finally . . . drum roll, please. Small world. My one and only sibling, my brother, lives in Nashville. I have visited him and his family there many times in the past 17 years, and I like Nashville. It certainly is not as diverse as other big cities in the U.S., but there are good things there to recommend it. I hope you and your husband and Noah have a wonderful life in the Nashville area.

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  21. Hi Mike! Yeah, it's been almost 3mos and it's really not as bad as I had imagined. And actually, I'm kind of used to it now and enjoying being here. The thing I''m mostly still adjusting to is the driving. The roads are soooo different (with IL/Chicago being so flat and here being so hilly). Everyone's been telling us that everything here shuts down with an inch of snow! How crazy is that? But then again with the roads here (hilly, narrow, country roads), I wouldn't want to risk it either. We'll see. Let me report back after winter!

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