We are inching closer to the big day, our big move to the South. I have approximately one more week in this house before I, with the little one, stay with my BFF and her family, for a few days before we close on the new house. They live 10 minutes away from the home we are building. My husband will have additional days in this house to do the final packing and loading before he joins us in TN.
It will be a big change for all three of us. Just when I had begun feeling comfortable and confident here in
, another move has to happen. This means, I will take more time, yet again, to feel comfortable driving and going to places on my own. The roads and routes will be new to me and I’m sort of going back to square one for the second time around. Granted that migrating from Manila to Chicago is a bigger deal than moving from Chicago to Nashville, to me, it's still a challenge because it translates to taking me away from the familiar just the same. Chicago
This will also be a new experience for my husband since for the first time, he’ll be living away from his family. I feel sad for him of course, since I’d been there, done that, so I have SOME sympathy for him. However, I would have to admit that part of me feels this will also be a good learning experience for us...I hope. I think it would be good that we'd be on our own and maybe he’ll understand me more now that he’s also away from family and everything familiar (although I will bet that he won’t have as much difficulty as I did when I first went through it given our personality differences…him being so friendly, outgoing and adaptable vs. me, the introverted, timid, overly cautious, overanalyzer). For the first time, we'd be able to experience celebrating (some) holidays by ourselves. I wonder how it would be like, what we'd do to make it fun and no less meaningful, what family traditions we could finally nurture...something that's truly our own, just us three. You could say it sounds sad. I say it's also exciting. It's all a matter of lens.
And of course it will be sad that Noah will surely miss his cousins and aunts, uncles and grandparents. But then again, this is still a good time to move since he’s still very young and adaptable and open to making new friends. Besides, BFF has two sons, the older one being the same age as Noah so that's another positive thing and one less thing to whine about.
Family and friends aside though, admittedly, there are some things I will miss TERRIBLY when we move....
Chicago weather...Yes you read it right. I will miss the weather here, EVEN the snow. I have said it multiple times before, I don't like heat and my favorite seasons are autumn and winter. I don't like road accidents and freezing to the bone, but I would have to admit that I will miss the chills and the layers and layers of clothing. What can I say?...the cold still has some novelty left for this girl who grew up in the tropics.
Our doctors...our family physician, my OBGYN, and my son's pediatrician. I adore all three and will really miss them. There is no doubt that there are excellent doctors in the Nashville area. However, the thought of starting over, looking for new ones with a good fit, and getting comfortable again is not so easy for me to think about.
The food landscape of Chicago...I will miss Vietnamese town, specifically Tank Noodle for the best Pho ever! Of course I'll also miss Chicago's Chinatown given all the interesting restaurants in that area, as well as stores selling Chinese delicacies. Asian food aside, I'll also miss Hot Doug’s for their superb encased meats and of course their duck-fat fries!! Come on! Who won't miss that? Oddly, though I'll be in TN, land of good barbecue, I am certain I will be missing Smoque, which in my opinion, unequivocally, serves the most flavorful ribs, bbq beans and to-die-for mac'n'cheese! As for pizzas, yes Chicago style is great but my heart has been totally captured by the Neapolitan pizzas at
Spacca Napoli. My heart breaks just thinking of how much I will miss their Bufalina, a true testament to the gastronomic joys achieved when simplicity meets excellence! And speaking of excellence, how can I ever forget the best and most flawless meal of my life at Charlie Trotter's? I know that's a lot for me to say...'flawless'...but I mean it. If you take your food seriously and want an intimate, romantic dinner and have some money to burn, you absolutely need to try their genius.
And last, but definitely not the least, I will absolutely miss Andy. He has treated me well and this is a relationship I find so hard to break because I'm certain it will be difficult to replace him. No, he's not my lover (that would be Ralph Fiennes). Andy is my hair stylist. He has been cutting my hair for approximately five years now and he's simply amazing. He knows what I want and he always delivers. He's used to Asian hair (he's Chinese), he's friendly, not too chatty, not snooty, very thorough and easily figures out what I want done. I am praying hard that I find someone like him when I move. If you think about it, great hair cut = great hair days = better mood = increased levels of HAPPINESS!! So yes, this is VERY important.
I seriously doubt if I will cry when it's time to say our goodbyes. I rarely cry, not because I'm tough or never emotionally moved. I just prefer to do it privately. That being said, I still think I won't cry because I know I'll be back one way or another. I've done the leaving before, somehow I know what to expect. After all is said and done, the only thing to remember is this...It's not the distance that matters but what you do to bridge that distance. You take what you are given and make the most of it.