Friday, June 3, 2011

Breaking Down a Breakdown

We are roughly two and a half months away from the big move (from the MidWest to the South).  To some people, that leaves more than enough time to pack.  However, knowing myself, I would rather start early, go through it as calmly as possible and have as much sense of control as I could afford.  If there is one thing I learned a decade and a half ago from graduate school, it is that having a schedule is important.  In grad school, there were a million things to read, write essays on and plan reports or presentations for.  It seemed impossible to handle but I discovered that all it took was having a realistic system of imposing how much to read per day and having the discipline to really stick to this schedule.  As long as you pace yourself accordingly, you can always manage without getting too overwhelmed and losing your sanity.  When faced with something that seems too huge, too difficult to handle, you just have to break it down…whether it’s a task, a concept or even just a word.

Given this approach, my plan is to pack an average of 2 boxes per day (whenever I could on weekdays), or total at least 8 per week.  I think this is pretty realistic and will definitely bring me a sense of accomplishment.  My only concern right now is the possibility of running out of space INSIDE the house once I pack so many boxes.  We’ll cross the bridge when we get there.     

It’s quite interesting though how I’m realizing the emotional aspect of this task.  Especially with regard to packing Noah’s stuff, I’ve found myself doing the ‘Awwww’s’ and doubting which items I should really get rid of.  You have to be pretty ruthless though in this process.  If I give in to every sentimentality I feel as I rediscover Noah’s old baby gear, toys and clothes, I might end up wanting another child.  And yes I have decided that I no longer want a second one.  This may come as a surprise to some of you but if you also know what I’ve gone through trying for a second one, I think you’ll understand my decision more.  So, off to the 'donate' and 'attempt to sell' piles they go and I am not looking back.


More than just packing our things and having to let go of some of them, what I'm having the most difficulty with is the thought of saying goodbye to this house.  We're not selling just because it's not wise to do so in this economy so technically it'll still be ours.  However, to be so far away and not live here anymore is the point.  My son was born here and there are just too many memories, too much energy (both good and bad) in this current home that I find difficult to fully let go of.  We've done quite a bit to personalize and upgrade some spaces and though it's a simple home and far from being 'high-end', it has always been home.  It's not a huge house but it has served our needs perfectly.  I have been happy here and very content.  It's funny how I look back now on all those times when I complained and wished for more rooms, more space.  Now I see those times as wasted when I could've just spent them accepting what is and making do with what we had/have.  


Now we're moving to a larger house and though I am also excited, I also feel anxious about all the things that need to be done.  More than just unpacking and settling down, I am already thinking of our future DIY projects.  Oddly this is a new house but at the same time, I'm realistic enough to know that no house is perfect given one's tastes and lifestyle.  So yes, we already have projects lined up.  Do the floors, add crown molding, repaint, improve on the kitchen and I'm sure many others will make it to this list.  But hold on...break it down, break it down.....


I'm still here and have to deal with this, 



before I can inch closer to this...

http://sarahrichardsondesign.com/portfolio/project/city-chic-lounge/living-room1



Wish me luck!  And if you don't see me on the blogosphere for 2 straight weeks, that means I'm somewhere underneath those boxes!  




            

19 comments:

  1. I am so impressed that you are starting to pack already!!! I am a little of a wait till the last minute gal myself!! I will send you good thoughts!! Happy Packing!!

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  2. Your new house looks fantastic! It's always difficult to change, and moving house is very stressful. Good luck!

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  3. Good luck with your move! Thanks for the heads up on my comment option not showing up. It's fixed now! Lovely site you have here Joy!~M

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  4. Wow! What an exciting development to your personal story, Joy! =) I totally hear you on feeling anxious about an overwhelmingly large project. I almost feel like my daily life has been this way recently because I'm so backed up with my work. Great advice to break it down into manageable bits.

    Best of luck for the move. So excited for you! Focus on the excitement, even as you say goodbye. =)

    P.S. Thank you *so* much for Liking my FB page! I really appreciate it! =)

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  5. Great plan Joy. Take it one box at a time. Good luck on the move!

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  6. Thanks for the well wishes, ladies. @Muriel: Unfortunately, that's not the new house. It's only a photo of one of the houses designed by Sarah Richardson. How I wish it were mine indeed, haha! :-)

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  7. Joy, the ever orhanized person you, i wish you all the best in your move and take it easy ... i pretty much know the annoying feeling of moving as we did twice and vowed not to do it again (at least for a long time) ... wish im there to lend you a hand but can a big tight cyber cuddle do for now? take care and im sure its gonna be good on the new place

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  8. Wow, your systematic approach is incredible! Good luck on your move and packing (yuk). LOVE LOVE LOVE that white room. Hope you get it!

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  9. @Jigi & TV: I do my best to be systematic and disciplined before laziness and procrastination take over, haha!...And I know eventually they will..eeeek! Thanks for the support :=)

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  10. GOOOOOOOOD LUUUUUUUCK! Moving is exciting and such a pain. Looks like you're handling it better than I did, though.

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  11. Keep on packin'! I don't envy you at all. I hope it is a long long long time before I ever have to pack & move again!

    You are right to be on top of it.

    Thanks for stopping in during the Alexa Hop! Come on back next week! Susie

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  12. You will have to keep us posted on your progress. I hate moving, but it can also be a great new adventure for you.

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  13. Moving - hate it never want to do it again. However, I was like you and started packing way in advance. To solve the problem of where boxes were going to be stored...I chose one room and packed it all up and then all the boxes went in that one room...as high to the ceiling as they could get. Worked out well actually, as when the time came we grabbed from that room first and boxes were labeled so they were pretty organized to place in the home. Anyway..visiting from the Alexa Hop...following you via GFC..have a great weekend!

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  14. @Finger Click Saver: Thanks for your message! Those are good suggestions! Good thing I have been labelling the boxes and the nice thing about these boxes we purchased is that they have check boxes that indicate which room it needs to go to. Cool! Thanks again for stopping by! :-)

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  15. You will have to keep us posted on your progress. I hate moving, but it can also be a great new adventure for you.

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  16. Great plan Joy. Take it one box at a time. Good luck on the move!

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  17. Wow! What an exciting development to your personal story, Joy! =) I totally hear you on feeling anxious about an overwhelmingly large project. I almost feel like my daily life has been this way recently because I'm so backed up with my work. Great advice to break it down into manageable bits.

    Best of luck for the move. So excited for you! Focus on the excitement, even as you say goodbye. =)

    P.S. Thank you *so* much for Liking my FB page! I really appreciate it! =)

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  18. Good luck with your move! Thanks for the heads up on my comment option not showing up. It's fixed now! Lovely site you have here Joy!~M

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