“You have inexhaustible wisdom and power.”
...and it's important to know how best to use them.
Last week, I had the time of my life hanging out with an old friend of mine, one of my closest, dearest friends who now lives in
. She and her husband visited Canada for a week and though we had very limited time, (considering it's been 10years since we last saw each other), we did make sure that it was time WELL spent. Chicago
After our eight-hour bonding time during our last day together, we made a pact to make more effort to really keep in touch. So while standing beside my car, saying our goodbyes and all, we both wondered why we haven't been calling each other more regularly these past years despite the fact that we now both reside in the Northern hemisphere. I really had no clue until she reminded me that for a time she felt there was an awkwardness between us since she did not approve of a certain 'friendship' I had before with someone I hardly knew. (Just to clarify to those 'in the know', she was not referring to my ex.)
I sincerely forgot about that and as she was reminding me of what happened, it really felt like it happened a lifetime ago. I thought it was funny and utterly silly so we ended up just laughing about the whole thing. I'm sure at the time it happened, it dented me. I'm sure her disapproval offended me somehow and made me all the more defensive. But now, nothing. Now, years later and wiser, I know that in the grand scheme of things, that past event does not really matter. It was all inconsequential to our friendship.
As another good friend once told me, in relationships, most times we don't realize how much power we have over each other and all we have to do is wield it. The important question is, how will you choose to wield that power? Answering that question is always important because if you think about it, we really only have true power over those we love, over those who truly matter to us. And those are the same ones that have power over us. You only REALLY get hurt by those who truly matter to you, right?
And that's one beauty of real friendships and love in general. You can get hurt many times but you learn to forgive and even forget sometimes. And those times when you don't fully forget, you are still able to choose to move on, and you continue moving forward with even greater wisdom.
I'm certain I've hurt my friends and I know at certain points in my life I've gotten hurt by them too. But we're still great friends and intend to stay friends forever. We know what's important and we do our best not to lose sight of that. We have power over each other...the power to hurt, as well as to heal; the power to hold grudges, as well as to forgive; the power to destroy each other, as well as to respect and love. The way you choose will show your WISDOM.