“An angry man opens his mouth and shuts up his eyes.”
Truth be told, I feel awful right now, physically that is. I have the cold and am running a fever too so let me make this one brief. The bed, couch, floor or anything I can be horizontal on beckons.
I don't really have a bad temper but when I get pushed, I do push back and am capable of exploding. Sadly, the person who's always with me these days is Noah. When he 'tests my patience' and I reach the end of the rope, I scream!....at him. It seems to be the natural thing to do when a parent finds that her/his child is not listening. The volume just goes up until I'm able to snap him out of what ever he's doing. In the heat of things, my exasperation consumes me until I shout at him and let it all out. It may relieve me of the internal pressure I'm experiencing and it's just so easy to walk away after I get him to behave the way I want him to, but what I always have to remind myself is that I need to check on Noah....see how he is, explain things to him and even ask and consider how he ends up feeling.
When we are consumed with anger, it's so easy to let it out without consideration of the casualties. But especially where it concerns a child, you cannot afford to just shut your eyes and walk away. More importantly, perhaps if we just open our eyes more and see, really see, then there may be no need for such explosive anger to begin with?
Isn't it that, for the most part, anger wins when we don't step back and see the bigger picture that confronts us? If we are honest with ourselves, we will realize that there are VERY FEW things in this life worth losing our temper over....really.
How about you? When was the last time you lost it? What was the casualty like?